Monday, May 16, 2011

Our (Awful) Song

or, why you shouldn't choose a song while you're drunk.

Josh and I had been dating for about 6 months and we still didn't have a "song." For some reason, this bothered me, and I pestered him for weeks insisting that we must find the song that perfectly told our story and was meaningful and full of love and all those other lofty goals the perfect couple song must attain. He wasn't concerned. He felt that we would find a song eventually, and it would be just fine regardless of what it was.

Ha. Men. They just think they know everything...

A few weeks later we attended the wedding of my college roommate. After copious amounts of wine (me) and beer (Josh) we were tearing up the dance floor. Naturally. Then the first slow song came on, so of course, we had to dance together. It was then and there, with cartoon pink puffy hearts emanating from our clouded-with-new-love heads, we proclaimed that THIS would be our song.

Aerosmith - I Don't Wanna Miss A Thing
In that instant of time, it was perfect for the following reasons: We both liked Aerosmith, and it was a slow song. Yeah, I know. Great reasons, right?

The next morning, as I woke up with my familiar wine-induced headache, I had a flashback to our decision. Cringe. I didn't want THAT song to be OUR song. Don't get me wrong: I don't hate the song. I just don't want our song to be connected to every Fun Night/Sadie Hawkins/Homecoming/Prom/Any Other Dance I Attended Between The Ages Of 13-18. I had danced with other guys to that song; it just wasn't meaningful to me.

I mentioned this to Josh, but he brushed it off. He liked the idea of that song, and I didn't want to push the issue on something so trivial (to him, but kinda important to me at the time). So I let it go.

For approximately 13 months...

Sure, we had talked about it, and I told Josh I wasn't convinced it should be our song. We didn't start seriously talking about it until we started talking about our first dance as a married couple. I had to put my foot down. I'm sure Josh didn't (and still doesn't) understand why I don't want to dance with him to this song, but he's at least humoring me.

We've entertained (or at least I've thought about) quite a variety of songs. My main criteria was that it not be something so common that it would be connected to other weddings or dances, but still be easy for our band to play. I'm sure these will seem familiar to some of you out there, but here in the middle of nowhere, they're fairly unheard of. Here were a few ideas:

Dashboard Confessional - Stolen
Ahhhh I love me some Dashboard.

Ingrid Michaelson - The Way I Am 
I adore her, and this song, but it's become quite popular. Plus, I'm not sure our band could really do this justice and keep the vibe of the song.

Creedence Clearwater Revival - As Long As I Can See The Light (one of Josh's favorite bands)

 What we ultimately decided on is a song I've loved for years. It's actually been in a few movies and TV soundtracks, which normally would be a deterrent. However, I played it for Josh and he actually liked it. I love the sound, the lyrics, and the fact that I haven't heard it played at any high school functions.

Feels Like Home - Chantal Kreviazuk, written by Randy Newman
I like this version because they've incorporated a guitar, which is what our band will be doing, too.

I'm so glad we finally decided on a song!

What would be your choice for a wedding song? What immediately puts a song on the "no list" for you?


  1. You are so funny- I can totally relate. Any song I ever heard when I was with my ex-boyfriend or at a school dance was a NO and my husband sure made fun of me for it! We finally decided on a couple just based on the fact that they were pretty new and represented something special when we heard them!

  2. stopping by from mingle monday:)

    Dashboard is my FAVE! :)

  3. In from Mingle Monday! My sister is getting married in June and has been sending me links to songs for some time now..I think they finally settled on one! Good luck!

  4. When I got married we had Life House - You & Me as our song, but now almost five years later I think we should have had Everlong by Foo Fighters.

    I found you via Mingle Monday :)

    Emerald City Girl ♥

  5. "Stolen" was the song we used for our slideshow..everyone LOVED that song :) Feels Like Home was in the running for our first dance song too. I absolutely *LOVE* that song :)

  6. This blog made me laugh :) "Why you shouldn't choose a song drunk!" haha So hilarious!

  7. I laughed so hard reading this!!

    I also wanted to answer the question you left on my blog...I have read all of the Madeline Wickham books, and call my crazy, but I don't like them as much as I like 'Sophie Kinsella'! Haha. I do still really really like them though.

    By the way, my wedding song was Hearts Are Breaking Across Texas by Aaron Watson. It was perfect. :)

  8. OMG!!!!!! I LOVE this song Ash! You know I'm going to cry!